If you’re interested in trying something new and a little risqué, then bondage is the way to go! When people think of bondage their mind usually goes to the extreme – a dark room with people dressed in leather and latex hanging off the walls while someone whips them. But the typical bondage experience is nothing like that. Most bondage beginners start out by cuffing someone’s hands together or tying them to the bed. There’s nothing really threatening or scary about that, is there? If you’re curious about trying bondage, these sex tips for beginners can help you get started.
Establishing Bondage Boundaries
Before you actually tie your partner up, it’s important for you both to have a conversation about bondage. You need to lay some limits about what is and is not okay to do. And it’s vital that you come up with a safe word, a specific word or phrase that your partner can use when they’ve had enough and want to stop.
Bondage is primarily about trust. So it’s important that you and your partner stick to the plan – especially if you ever want to try bondage again in the future.
Shopping for Bondage Toys
Bondage beginners generally start out with some type of simple restraint. You can use virtually anything to restrain your partner, including silk ties, Velcro restraints, handcuffs, ropes, weights, and even verbal orders. With its recent surge in popularity, there are many beginner-friendly bondage restraints that come with comfortable padded lining and Velcro cuffs for easy removal.
Most couples generally begin by tying their hands together or to a bed post with silk ties or rope. If you don’t like being tied up, you can try other restraints such as hand cuffs or even specialized bondage tape. Some bondage enthusiasts even suggest starting out with paper streamers for peace of mind. The streamers give you the illusion of being restrained, but allow your partner to break out easily if they become uncomfortable.
Playing Bondage Games
Once your partner’s restrained, they’re at your mercy. This makes it extremely important that you follow the safety guidelines for bondage and BDSM and your earlier conversations about what is and is not okay to do.
It’s generally best to start things with something basic. Try teasing their nipples with a feather duster or a melting ice cube. You might even doodle all over their body with edible paint and then lick it off. From there, you can move on to a playful spanking with a paddle or a riding crop. Try blindfolding your partner too, the suspense of what you’re going to do next is incredibly erotic and a huge turn on.
Why do people enjoy bondage gear?
Bondage gear helps you engage in restraint safely. There are many items you can use to restrain someone, but you also need to protect them. Tying someone too tightly can be dangerous. You need to make sure you're not cutting off their circulation. So if you use a household item like a scarf or tie, you may knot it too tightly. With specially crafted items, you take out the guesswork. This way you can enjoy your kinky explorations without worry. Another way to protect yourself is to always use a safeword. This lets either party stop the action at any time.
There's also a beautiful visual element to this type of erotic play. When a person is cuffed behind their back, their chest sticks out. Their entire body is then presented to the dominant. This provides many kinky people with a heavy rush of power.
Wearing kinky gear also symbolizes a deep trust. If you're going to wear a ball gag, you should make sure your partner knows what you want. You should also develop an alternative safeword since you can't talk, such as ringing a bell. This level of commitment and trust can bring you even closer together.
There are both physical and mental aspects of bondage. It can be glorious and maddening to not be able to touch your lover. It can also be incredibly exciting. If you are used to using your hands while performing oral sex, imagine them restrained. What would you do differently? How would your dynamic change?
You don't have to have any prior experience to enjoy this type of play. Many couples are looking to add something new to their intimate life. They use these items to stay out of a sexual rut. They may find it helps increase their libido. These items can act like a code between them. When the cuffs are on the bed, it's kinky date night.
What kinds of bondage toys are there?
One thing newbies might not realize is that there's no single way to enjoy erotic restraint. For some, it's as simple as having one body part restrained, such as wrists, or wearing a gag. We carry rope in a variety of colors specifically designed for tying people up. It gets the job done without being rough on the skin. Cuffs come in all sorts of materials, from leather to satin and beyond. Each will produce a different sensation.
This single element can transform your bedroom dynamic completely. Instead of being on an equal playing field, one person is in charge. A bondage collar can also be arousing to both partners. It gives the submissive a bold symbol of their role. Some come with a leash so you can be led around. Some wear them as play accessories. For others, being collared is a formal level of devotion in a dom/sub relationship.
Others crave more intense sensations from being bound. Maybe they want to be hogtied, with their wrists and ankles restrained behind their back. We carry specific gear to do that easily. Different styles work for different relationships. You may regularly practice BDSM or enjoy it occasionally.
6OX’s has kinky items for all experience levels. Even a kinky accessory like a blindfold can transform your love life. It allows the wearer to sink into a world where they are at the mercy of the person who’s placed it over their eyes.
Our specially selected BDSM items include everything from cuffs to ball gags to the simple but extremely effective bondage tape. The tape can be used to bind wrists or ankles or even more sensitive body parts. It won't hurt when it comes off the way regular tape would.
It's not just about the physical thrills, though. For many, the joy of playing with bondage accessories is getting to engage in kinky roleplay. This can mean giving up or gaining control over their partner for a little while. You'll see how the change in power dynamics makes things sizzle between you.
As we said earlier, bondage sex toys also offer up an exciting visual element. This can easily correspond with power exchange. Picture a bound woman. Her partner is using a vibrator on her. She can't escape...but she doesn't want to! The sensations are amplified because she's restrained. Then maybe later she ties up her guy. Then she uses a feather tickler on him...all over.
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Bondage
Discover tie-and-tease play with our huge range of bondage gear. Whether you're a bondage beginner or a Shibari expert, we have a full range of BDSM toys and accessories, from handcuffs and restraints, to spankers, ticklers and floggers.
What is BDSM?
BDSM is an all-inclusive term given to any sexual behavior that might be considered 'kinky'.
Pain, physical restraint, and servitude would be frowned upon in a non-sexual scenario. In BDSM circles, however, these practices are engaged in with the consent of both people involved for mutual satisfaction and excitement.
During bondage play, there is a power dynamic that takes place, with one partner taking control (the ‘Dominant’ or ‘Dom’) and one person relinquishing it (the ‘submissive’ or ‘sub’).
The Dom/sub dynamic can be an exciting one to explore as a couple as you can try out different roles and discover what turns you on most.
Discovering bondage play and trying out BDSM toys while in a loving relationship can bring you both closer and build trust that stretches way beyond the bedroom.
What Does BDSM Stand For?
The acronym BDSM can be split into three major areas, or six different 'acts’:
B&D: Bondage and Discipline
D&S: Domination and Submission
S&M: Sadism and Masochism
What are Bondage and BDSM toys?
BDSM sex toys fall into four categories: beginner, sensory, impact and hardcore. This is useful to know when choosing the best bondage toys for you as you can start off with light bondage equipment and work your way up to advanced BDSM gear as you become more comfortable.
Below, we talk you through the different types of BDSM and bondage sex toys most suitable for each level of experience:
Light Bondage Toys for Beginners
If you’re thinking of trying out BDSM for the first time, beginners’ bondage toys including light restraints, handcuffs, blindfolds and other soft bondage gear should be your go-tos. BDSM games can help first-timers relax and get into the rhythm of bondage play, while beginner’s bondage kits contain everything you need to kickstart your bondage journey.
BDSM Toys for Sensory Play
Sensory play toys are designed to deprive and enhance the senses, heightening arousal. These toys include masks, hoods and gags as well as various BDSM tools like nipple suckers, feather ticklers, pinwheels and nipple clamps. You can even try vibrator bondage to tease your partner with tingling vibrations, or use other suction toys on their most sensitive parts for maximum thrill.
BDSM Equipment for Impact Play
Impact play involves spanking or striking a partner for mutual enjoyment. We offer a variety of bondage equipment for impact play, including everything from spanking paddles and floggers to whips, crops and canes.
Hardcore Bondage Toys
The more daring may want to try out some advanced BDSM gear to take bondage play to the next level. Japanese bondage rope, sex swings and bondage furniture are all perfect for building out your BDSM collection.
Take the plunge with an advanced bondage kit to push your boundaries, or shock your senses with electric BDSM equipment.
Feeling overwhelmed by our bondage repertoire? Watch the video below to find out about the top six beginner-friendly BDSM toys that everyone can try.
Is Bondage Safe?
All of our BDSM sex toys and bondage gear is safe when used as intended. Bondage is about pushing the body’s boundaries and it may naturally involve some pain or discomfort.
Before engaging in bondage play, you should first set these boundaries with your partner to let them know what you can and can’t tolerate. It’s always a good idea to have a safe word which lets your partner know when to stop if you aren’t enjoying a particular sensation. If ever in doubt, don’t do it.
Bondage & BDSM Sex Toy Guides
Feeling adventurous? We have plenty of guides to show you the ropes on all-things bondage.
BDSM - it means different things to different people, and that's exactly how it should be. From playful to punishing, from frisky to fetish, we have all the bondage sex toys you'll need to fulfill all your fantasies. If you’re on the market for BDSM toys, our selection has got you covered. Whether you are shopping for a sex swing, blindfold, rope, cock ring, or any other type of bondage gear, we are sure you'll be able to find all the toys you need for optimal kink play. While the BDSM scene might sound a little scary out of context, you don't have to be into all of it. A lot of people just have a bondage fetish, for instance. Maybe you'd just like to see what spanking's all about, or perhaps a pair of handcuffs and a blindfold have piqued your interest. No matter what you're into, all kink, fetish, and bondage play must come with the core requirement of all sexual experiences - consent. Between two consenting partners, bondage sex toys can be very fun and fulfilling. Whether you're shopping for a beginner BDSM toy or you're looking for more intense BDSM gear, our selection of bondage equipment has everything you need to bring your fetishes to life. When it comes to shopping for the perfect bondage toy, experimentation is key. There is a lot of BDSM equipment on the market. Try out different toys to increase the pleasure between you and your partner.
Spice Up Your Sex Life With Bondage Toys
Our selection of bondage sex toys primarily focuses on pleasure and the lighter side of things in BDSM play. But there's plenty for kinksters and advanced players, too! Want to experiment with BDSM restraints? We've got all kinds of bondage and fetishwrist and ankle cuffs, from classic handcuffs to furry bed restraints and bondage rope options, so you can get a willing mate trussed up in the comfort of your own bedroom. Looking for some extra kinky bondage gear that’ll whip you into shape? Try a spanking paddle, a leather whips and crops or feather tickler to add some stinging punishment to your playtime. Pair them with mouth gags or oral restraints for even more kinky fun. Want to delve a little deeper into the bondage and fetish scene? Try a cock rings nipple clamp, or chastity cage. These are some of the most popular fetish sex toys out there! If you want to dip your toe before diving into the whole pool, get a BDSM starter kit curated especially for newcomers. These beginner toys will allow you to explore your submissive or dominant side, helping you create your ideal bedroom dynamic.
Whatever it is you’re into, there's so many bondage sex toy collections to explore, from leashes and collars to sexy swings. When it comes to BDSM toys, start where you're comfortable. If a sex swing and bed restraints are too intense, begin with a spanking paddle and leather collar. The whole point here is to tap into a higher level of pleasure for both you and your partner. Once you begin experimenting, you can start dabbling in more BDSM play.