Bondage, and butt plugs, and spanking—oh my!
Are you interested in a little experimentation? Intrigued by the idea of kink, but unsure as to what that actually means?
First things first, let's talk about what you’re getting into. Kink means departure from sexual norms, whether that’s by inserting props—handcuffs, feathers, paddles, plugs—into your routine, or exploring sexual fantasies (role play, anyone?), BDSM, or rough sex, to name a few examples.
Your kink might be sex with multiple partners at once; it might be having your partner use a remote control butt plug on you in public; it might be humiliation; it might be light choking. Whatever you’re into, know that there are tons of people out there who get off on precisely the same thing.
If you've never had kinky sex before, licensed sex therapist Vanessa Marin suggests easing your way in. "I think a lot of people, for some reason, have this idea that if you’re going to try kink, you have to go all the way in, and that’s still really intimidating and can actually lead to a lot of difficulties," she tells WomensHealthMag.com. Testing out nipple clamps or choking during your first foray, for example, may not be the most approachable place to start.
Before springing bondage gear on your partner, you should both discuss your boundaries and desires, and make sure you're on the same page about what you're both down to try. It might be a good idea to set a safe word in case one of you gets uncomfortable and wants to call things off.
So how do you dip your toe in kink’s waters? Depending on what you like, kinkifying your sex life might be as simple as adding a few simple maneuvers to your erotic menu. Here are seven suggestions for moves that can easily accommodate a little (or a lot) of kink.
Sooo many useful things! My fetish is spanking. Spanking is a staple of my partner satisfaction. This relieves internal discomfort and creates a relationship of trust between me and my girlfriend. Thus, the pain threshold is measured, and also opens the door to the experimenters. We enjoy using riding crop bdsm. It's really amazing thing ;)
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