8 Bondage Kinky Sex Positions To Spice Up Your Life

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Bondage, and butt plugs, and spanking—oh my!

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Are you interested in a little experimentation? Intrigued by the idea of kink, but unsure as to what that actually means?


First things first, let's talk about what you’re getting into. Kink means departure from sexual norms, whether that’s by inserting props—handcuffs, feathers, paddles, plugs—into your routine, or exploring sexual fantasies (role play, anyone?), BDSM, or rough sex, to name a few examples.


Your kink might be sex with multiple partners at once; it might be having your partner use a remote control butt plug on you in public; it might be humiliation; it might be light choking. Whatever you’re into, know that there are tons of people out there who get off on precisely the same thing.


If you've never had kinky sex before, licensed sex therapist Vanessa Marin suggests easing your way in. "I think a lot of people, for some reason, have this idea that if you’re going to try kink, you have to go all the way in, and that’s still really intimidating and can actually lead to a lot of difficulties," she tells WomensHealthMag.com. Testing out nipple clamps or choking during your first foray, for example, may not be the most approachable place to start.


Before springing bondage gear on your partner, you should both discuss your boundaries and desires, and make sure you're on the same page about what you're both down to try. It might be a good idea to set a safe word in case one of you gets uncomfortable and wants to call things off. 


So how do you dip your toe in kink’s waters? Depending on what you like, kinkifying your sex life might be as simple as adding a few simple maneuvers to your erotic menu. Here are seven suggestions for moves that can easily accommodate a little (or a lot) of kink.

Man's Best Friend

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For people who are just starting out, Marin recommends this classic: "Probably the easiest position to try...is doggy style," she explains, "because it already feels like a little more animalistic position and lends itself really well to spanking, to hair-pulling, to things like pinching the nipples."

Kneeling on all fours, have your partner enter you from behind, either while he's standing and you're stationed on the bed, or he's on his knees behind you. Same-sex partners could consider a strap-on, or just using fingers for penetration. Either way, try roughing things up by tweaking nipples, grabbing hair, and smacking butts.

Seated Wheelbarrow

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WOMEN'S HEALTH

Here’s a fun one for those of you who like a little spanking or  anal play during PIV sex: the seated wheelbarrow.

With your guy sitting on the edge of the bed—or couch, or kitchen chair—position yourself on his lap with the tops of your thighs pressed against his and your legs stretching behind his back. Lean forward with both palms on the floor and have your partner insert a well-lubricated finger while he enters you from behind, maybe pulling it out just as you're on the brink of orgasm.

Anal beads and butt plugs could be a next step, but take baby steps: "Get started with your fingers first and see if you like anal play," Marin suggests.

Cowgirl

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Now it's time for you to take the reins: The cowgirl presents an optimal opportunity to dominate your partner. Before you straddle them, consider blindfolding their eyes: Marin recommends household items, like a silk scarf or tie, for this job. With their consent, you can also tread into bondage territory.

"If you’re really a beginner and you’re really feeling shy, you can just start with having one partner hold the other’s hands over their head," she says. "You get that feeling of it, and you can get a sense of if that’s something you guys like without having to make any purchases." Couples with a solid working knowledge of knots could definitely use those same blindfold materials to tie one another up, but if you haven't established that bondage is something you're both into, be careful to avoid knots that tighten when someone struggles.

In any case, cowgirl puts you in charge, so you could experiment with tweaking or twisting your partner's nipples, or—if you have a male partner—maybe grabbing his balls.

4. 69 

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If you’re looking to inject a little bit of kink into mutual oral, consider throwing in some toys: Women might consider a Lovense Lusha bluetooth-enabled internal vibrator that can be controlled via a smartphone app, and shouldn’t get in the way of oral. Dudes, consider a butt plug or a vibrating cock ring.

Arguably the easiest way to accomplish 69 is to have both partners lie on their sides, with heads positioned at one another’s genitals, but you could also ramp things up with under-the-bed restraints: One person can lie flat on their back with their hands and feet tied down, while the other partner kneels over them.

If you're going the restraint system route, for this or any other position, Marin likes this set from Sportsheets  because its velcro cuffs are easy to remove.

Spider

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The spider is a solid option for any couple: Sit facing one another with your legs staggered so that you end up crotch to crotch. This is a solid position for PIV sex, and with a little bit of hip rotation, also works for women looking to scissor.

If you've established that anal play is for you, amp up the kink with the addition of a butt plug: Maybe consider a motorized option—like the b-Vibe —that your partner can control with a handheld remote. The plug should lend a pleasing sensation of fullness that makes penetration feel even hotter.

Pinball Wizard

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In this position, lie with your back flat on the mattress and have your partner tie your hands to the bedpost or headboard. (Or, prop your hips up on pillows and brace your legs around his hips, so he can anchor your wrists above your head.)

With your hands out of play, he is free to explore your body, and maybe experiment with nipple play while you’re lying chest up. Then, when you’re both primed and ready, have him lift your butt and enter you while kneeling between your legs.

Cross buttocks

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The cross buttocks is a standout option if your man is into spankings and/or humiliation. Have him lie across your lap, with your hips tipped up so he can enter you. With his butt in the air, you’ll be perfectly positioned to give him a little smack—with your hand, or if you're feeling more ambitious, with a paddle, or any other toy you’ve both agreed is fair game.

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